We were doing feedback after a role play recently and the question of proposals and agreements came up.
When you are learning mediation your mentors will tell you not to rush to agreement.
One of the really common problems is the mediator trying to rush the parties towards an agreement before they fully understand and have the opportunity to consider what is being proposed. It is counter productive and doesn’t work.
Don’t think that the first time you see the parties coming up with options and making proposals that they have an agreement and definitely don’t try to lock them into them!
What’s your proposal?
You could think of proposals in Mediation as being reverse-marriage proposals.
When someone proposes marriage they usually get an immediate reaction without any questions about exactly what they expect the marriage to be like.
If the proposal is accepted then they start working out the when, what will the wedding be like, where will they live and some of the detail of their life together. All without knowing what is being proposed in any detail before they say yes.
If they say no they are rejecting the proposal based on an emotional response without much information about what life together the other person is proposing.
Exploring the proposal before you say yes or no.
If they used mediation to negotiate getting married the mediator would help them to explore the proposal before saying yes or no.
We’d probably have less work as FDR Practitioners if that became common practice.
Are you using Visual Mediation?
Mediation Institute hosted a webinar with Lisa Arora visual communication specialist mediator in 2017. Lisa is located in British Columbia, Canada and has agreed to host a webinar for Mediation Institute to discuss Visual Mediation.
If you were unable to join us you can watch a recording of our webinar here – Mediation Institute Visual Mediation Webinar with Lisa Aurora
Joanne and Lisa had a chat this week to discuss her approach to Visual Mediation. Lisa is a leading practitioner of Visual Mediation and is very generous in sharing her knowledge and expertise.
The Virtual Mediation Lab ran a webinar with Lisa in December 2017 and the recording of the webinar is located here – https://www.virtualmediationlab.com/virtual-mediation-lab-usa-international/lets-get-visual-opportunities-to-leverage-the-power-of-visual-communication-in-your-mediation-practice/
How to engage more
Lisa very generously shares a Visual Mediation Agenda step-by-step guide on her website. Go to Lisa’s website and download her free Visual Agenda Template and 32 page Mediators Guide.
Are you using Visual Mediation?
It would be great to take the discussion on visual mediation into a deeper discussion. Log into the Mediation Institute Mediator Members collaborative space on Study 247 Online – https://mi.study247.online
Family Dispute Resolution Practitioners
Remember that one of the conditions of your accreditation is that you keep the Attorney Generals Department up to date with:
- your contact details, including place of employment,
- email and
- telephone details.
Place of Employment
One of our members recently received an email from the AG’s department who had been notified by their new employer that they were now working with them. The AG’s emailed to remind the FDRP that they have to let the AG’s Department know if their employment changes.
If you start working or contracting with a FDR service make sure that you send an email to the Practitioners Registration Department of the Australian Attorney Generals Department.
The other obligations include;
A suitable complaint’s mechanism
If you have recently joined Mediation Institute we will have prompted you to let the AG’s department know that Mediation Institute is your approved external complaints mechanism that can be used by your clients.
Professional Indemnity Insurance
If you have changed your insurer you must let the Attorney Generals know who you are insured with.
Professional Development Requirements
Remember that as well as your 25 hours of professional development with your NMAS Accreditation (if you are a NMAS Mediator) you also have to undertake at least 24 hours of professional development activities for every two years of accreditation.
You should have a good overlap between your NMAS and FDR requirements and if you engage with our professional development activities you will easily exceed these requirements.
- Check out our events calendar for regular and special event webinars.
- Offer to host a webinar on a suitable topic (3 hours of CPD for a 1 hour webinar to allow for preparation)
- Participate as a role player, co-mediator or mentor in a student role play (contact us for access to the role play scheduler)
Ceasing practice and other changes
Keep this department up to date if you cease to practice as an FDR practitioner and anything else relevant to your accreditation.
Read this – https://www.ag.gov.au/FamiliesAndMarriage/Families/FamilyDisputeResolution/Pages/Foraccreditedfamilydisputeresolutionpractitioners.aspx
Members are reminded that our monthly Online Group Supervision Session is on tomorrow at 7 pm Brisbane time. Joanne has emailed out a group invitation so that you can get this meeting into your calendar or you can manually add this regular meeting to your diary if you use an analog rather than digital system. […]