Proposals and Agreements

We were doing feedback after a role play recently and the question of proposals and agreements came up.

When you are learning mediation your mentors will tell you not to rush to agreement.

One of the really common problems is the mediator trying to rush the parties towards an agreement before they fully understand and have the opportunity to consider what is being proposed. It is counter productive and doesn’t work.

Don’t think that the first time you see the parties coming up with options and making proposals that they have an agreement and definitely don’t try to lock them into them!

What’s your proposal?

You could think of proposals in Mediation as being reverse-marriage proposals.

When someone proposes marriage they usually get an immediate reaction without any questions about exactly what they expect the marriage to be like.

If the proposal is accepted then they start working out the when, what will the wedding be like, where will they live and some of the detail of their life together. All without knowing what is being proposed in any detail before they say yes.

If they say no they are rejecting the proposal based on an emotional response without much information about what life together the other person is proposing.

Exploring the proposal before you say yes or no.

If they used mediation to negotiate getting married the mediator would help them to explore the proposal before saying yes or no.

We’d probably have less work as FDR Practitioners if that became common practice.

Proposals and Agreements

Mediation Practice Development Webinar #1/2018

The first Mediation Practice Development Webinar #1/2018 was a quiet one as it appears that most members are still on holidays or perhaps just still in holiday mode and not focused on building your mediation practices.


You can watch an edited recording of the webinar and discussion below.

Webinar 170118 Practice Development No 1 2018 from Mediation Institute on Vimeo.

Share and Discuss

You can participate in a discussion with other members in the Mediation Institute RMAB collaboration area on Study 247 Online –

Let us know if you are having trouble logging in. All Members and Students should have access to this collaboration space.


As mentioned we are happy to repost and share members content and if you do not have a blog or website as yet you can be a guest blogger if you have interesting and informative content to share that is relevant to dispute resolution or for dispute resolution professionals such as tools, resources or tips for your fellow mediators which we can post on the RMAB website for members.


Visual Mediation with Lisa Aurora

Are you using Visual Mediation?

Mediation Institute hosted a webinar with Lisa Arora visual communication specialist mediator in 2017. Lisa is located in British Columbia, Canada and has agreed to host a webinar for Mediation Institute to discuss Visual Mediation.

If you were unable to join us you can watch a recording of our webinar here – Mediation Institute Visual Mediation Webinar with Lisa Aurora

Joanne and Lisa had a chat this week to discuss her approach to Visual Mediation. Lisa is a leading practitioner of Visual Mediation and is very generous in sharing her knowledge and expertise.

The Virtual Mediation Lab ran a webinar with Lisa in December 2017 and the recording of the webinar is located here –

How to engage more

Lisa very generously shares a Visual Mediation Agenda step-by-step guide on her website. Go to Lisa’s website and download her free Visual Agenda Template and 32 page Mediators Guide.

Visual Mediation AgendaThe Visual Mediation Agenda

Are you using Visual Mediation?

It would be great to take the discussion on visual mediation into a deeper discussion.  Log into the Mediation Institute Mediator Members collaborative space on Study 247 Online –





The Power of Thought: Updates in Brain Plasticity

Heads up on an interesting looking CPD opportunity for 2018. This is for the information of members and is not a Mediation Institute event.

Norman Doidge, M.D.

The Power of Thought: Updates in Brain Plasticity

Brisbane 17 & 18 May 2018, Sydney 24 & 25 May 2018, Melbourne 28 & 29 May 2018

  • Super Sale – $660 if paid before 15.12.2017
  • Keen – $770 if paid before 15.3.2017
  • Early – $880 if paid before 20.4.2017
  • Standard – $1,100

Extraordinary Advances in Neuroplasticity

 In this new workshop, Norman Doidge will explore some extraordinary advances made in the last 2 years in clinical applications of neuroplasticity, and show how to understand new insights on the brain’s circuits and hemispheres can enhance our understanding of, and improve treatment of patients with brain problems, and help deepen our approach to psychotherapy with challenging patients.

Weaving between neuroscience, psychology, psychiatry, neurology, psychotherapy, great literature, and even anthropological findings, this workshop will both update the attendee on the latest neuroplastic developments, reinforce basics, and shed more detailed light on psychotherapy, and the how to help patients who are caught in rigid, unhealthy patterns, grow out of that rigidity, and make use of their neuroplastic potential.

Training Information

Day 1

  • Opening. Why do we have two hemispheres? How they get imbalanced, leaving us devitalized, stuck in a rut, making us more rigid; how the hemispheres malfunction in psychiatric problems; how to reset the balance, enhance productivity, and vitality.
  • An overview of the five stages of neuroplastic healing, and how the apply to psychiatric, psychological and neurological brain problems.
  • Correcting general cellular problems, and reversing Alzheimer’s disease (arguably the most important neurological breakthrough of the last 50 years); the first 200 cases who have reversed their symptoms; preventing Alzheimer’s, even in those with the Alheimer’s gene
  • Parkinson’s, MS, PoNS, stroke update. Breakthrough in TBI treatment in the last two years. Hyperbaric oxygen breakthrough for stroke and TBI. Arrowsmith study. TMS breakthrough.

Day 2

  • The power of directed thought; helping rigid, concrete and egocentric “non-mentalizing” clients access their neuroplastic potential. Understanding the kind of thinking that drives neuroplastic change; the thought spectrum, from directed to undirected thought.
  • Growth attitudes and circuitry, verses anti-growth attitudes and circuitry, in therapy and life: highlighting how these take hold in us, and our clients; anti-growth circuitry and it relation to depression, and “the dormancy tendency;” using the right hemisphere stimulation to access growth attitudes.
  • Listening Therapy Update, more autism breakthroughs; TBI update with complex cases; neuroplastic approaches to multiple chemical sensitivities and fibromyalgia.
  • Review, Q & A.

These workshops are suitable for (but not limited to) mental health professionals, including psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists, counsellors, social workers, neuropsychologists, chiropractors, osteopaths, psychometrists, recreational therapists, occupational and physio-therapists and naturopaths.

There are no prerequisites to attending this workshop. Anyone interested in the workshop content is welcome to attend, however you do so under your own volition.

These workshops are aimed to bring you up to date with the very latest research and clinical implications from the field of neuroplasticity.

Normans Publications


More information and bookings –

Mi Mastermind November 2017.

We held our first Mi Mediator Mastermind Group in November while Ken and I (Joanne) were in Perth for a role play day and some onsite training.

The venue was at an AirBnB with several members joining us on zoom.


The structure for the session was an introduction from each participant about who they are, where they are, what aspect of mediation they are focused on and what they would like to learn or share.

I captured the focus areas post it notes onto a Smartsheet on the wall but forgot to take a photo to share.  It’s looking a bit worse for wear now after being rolled up and brought home in my bag so here is a list of the topics. Some were mentioned but not really discussed a lot while others were really helpful.

A special mention to Christine who was very generous in sharing her expertise with some interesting software packages and Ken who’s offered to assist with distributing articles through his fabulous LinkedIn Network.  If you are not connected with Ken and I on LinkedIn make sure you send us a connection request.

Session 1 Smart SheetTypes of mediation the participants were interested in

  • Workplace Mediation
  • FDR
  • Commercial Mediation
  • Elder Mediation
  • Community / Neighbour Mediation
  • Relationship Mediation

Not all of the topics were covered and not everything was covered in as much depth as may be required but everyone felt the time together was worthwhile and that we should make the Mastermind Group a regular event.

Topics Raised

  • Fee structuring
  • Virtual Assistants
  • Market Research
  • Bringing in current experience
  • Client Kit Documents
  • Business Model
  • Ethics
  • Marketing Material
  • Social Media – discussion focused on LinkedIn and Facebook
  • Marketing for referrers
  • Software
  • Email (don’t use gmail or hotmail as a professional)
  • Websites
  • Collaboration with others
  • What to give free
  • Customer Relationship Management Software

Towards the end of the session we each identified what we would commit to do to move our businesses as professional mediators forward.

Video Recording

Mi Mediator Mastermind #1 Nov 2017 final from Mediation Institute on Vimeo.